A dating guide

But when Ariely provided an ugly version of Tom in the photo lineup, suddenly Tom was rated as more attractive.

What you AREN'T is the guy in the background, watching the action go down around you. If you’re hiking with a small group of friends, you’d want to be the one leading the way.

You're the captain of the ship, the one in the driver's seat, the guy making the toast… This almost goes without saying, but make sure you’re the hottest one in the frame of any group photo you choose.

As long as it’s not a selfie, it’s obvious you were there with at least one other person, right?

Remember, this is all about letting her imagine a lifestyle.

Most group photos fail on one (or both) of those fronts, and it ends up working against you in the long run because it actually lowers your perceived attractiveness.

It’s probably easier to use a photo of you in a social setting, like a cool cafe or outdoor park.

Tired of feeling frustrated every time you check your online dating sites and apps?

If you’re not getting the results you want, there are usually two major reasons.

If she has a bad impression of you from the start, she's not clicking on your profile or responding to your message.

Here’s where it gets challenging – she’s forming opinions on just about every aspect of what she sees, including your posture, facial expression, and the clothes you’re wearing.

You should always be the only person in your main pic.)A lot of guys mistakenly think that including a group shot is mandatory, because it makes them look more social and outgoing.