But finally, after all the wooing, I let him into my heart. He discarded me without a second thought when I instilled my boundaries about being consistent in an emotionally healthy relationship (before sex again).Now he’s posting on instagram with long yellow gloves in soup kitchens, showing off his career ventures with a thousand hashtags, wearing slacks (which he claimed he hated). If he was really amazing, he would’ve never emotionally manipulated me, future-faked, and disappeared on me so cruelly. Your energy and level of awareness despite your heartbreak is infectious and inspiring. I’m right behind you on my white horse 🙂Thanks babe! and remember, it takes one to know one – YOU are brilliant, stronger, wiser and more beautiful and irreplaceable than you even know.So please tell me Natasha, I do have the right to get mad that he told me he wanted to get back together, treat me better and we were gonna talk about it but then a week or so later total silence? I’m so angry my insides feel like they want to combust! Your time to sin and now I’m just yesterday’s trash?
More is on the way…This is going to be post # 1 in a 3-part series because just like with boundaries and emotional unavailability, which I’ve written numerous posts about, breaking down the different questions, myths, and concerns regarding narcissism is going to take more than just one post.
I’m not a psychologist, but I do have a black belt / expert level Jedi / honorary Ph D in f*cktards This is just my non-professional, “street cred” opinion so here it goes: I believe that narcissists present themselves as someone that: I’m going to stop at 20 even though I feel like I could keep going and going. And I’ll get way more into that in the next 2 posts. The first thing that you need to ask yourself is “what am I truly getting out of this relationship?
I understand what you’re going through and the emotions that your are feeling.
To answer your question, yes, you definitely have the right to be mad.
I used to date narcissists because they exuded this bravado that was infectious and addicting.
Insecure, validation seeking people love narcissists because we look up to them, we think they’re cool and we think that value gets driven up by mere association with them.Remember: when you want to be portrayed as a good person, or your do a good deed, you tell everyone. he’s just trying to tell people who he wish he was.If you really are that way, you don’t need to announce and exploit it on social media. If you need any additional help you can connect with me here: https://postmalesyndrome.com/coaching/xoxo Hi Natasha, I soaked up all your amazing, life-saving posts in a day and I was wondering if you could do a rebuttal or response piece on the pervasive dating advice constantly touted to women that enables emotionally unavailable men to have these fringe relationships: “play it cool,” “allow him to pace the relationship (I.e.you can never text him first, ask him out or EVER initiate the talk)”, “expect him to pull away, don’t reach out, when he does come back welcome him with warmth so that he can see that he can trust you not to freak out when he needs ‘man cave’ time, and he will feel closer to you” etc.All the boundaries we work hard to discover for ourselves and act upon are apparently not “feminine” which is why men will supposedly feel depolarized and withdraw because they don’t feel like a man around us (the advice places the blame on the woman).Really excited about it and you know I’ll have gifts for runners up as Hi Natasha, what a great topic.