Advice Needed: So I guess Im looking for some advice.
I can probably say the same for insisting that everyone I date have at least a BA.However, I don’t think I’m alone in having specific things which a potential partner must or must not have. While that’s definitely true, there are those who are too picky. Get a handle on this one - you say you are planning on marrying her and from your own description I can see why.Reread what you wrote about her over and over again.Am I being too shallow in regards to age/standards? He treats me well and we're compatible, but I'm not physically attracted to him AT ALL? Am I too shallow and high maintenance to get a boyfriend? The Bad Side of Being a Player Why I Stopped Supporting the LGBT Community Free Speech Isn't Just for People That Agree With You!
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Should I try to shake this feeling, or would my shallowness be the doom of me when we get married in the future?
I dont want to lose her due to something as trivial as looks, but maybe its a valid issue? I think what you need to do is tell yourself that it is okay to look.
Trust me, I was one of those "trophy girls" -- still am! BUT it took me a long time to be able to be a healthy partner in a relationship because of it. You're going to give up a fantastic companion who is attractive because of wanting stellar looks that eventually fade anyway?!! Until you get over this hang up you shouldn't marry her either.
How would you feel (you said you aren't The Ultimate either) if she left you because of your looks - or if she was having doubts about you and being with you because you don't look like It is a valid issue, and a tough one. The fact that you feel guilty about looking at other, more attractive girls and fantasising about what what it would be like to be with them?
I seriously think you're downplaying the importance of physical appearance as part of the essential criteria for a partner. You'd be no less shallow if you wanted a parnter with a good sense of humour. Or is really the niggling feeling that you're settling for second-best and are not completely convinced that she's 'the one'?