Europeans know that the two are by nature polar opposites.
I, for one, have never been able to manage this—but perhaps the inability is a character defect on my part.
When I love wholly, I make a whole commitment, and when that commitment begins to break down in the sexual area, I know I am on to some deep discontent I have to not yet owned.
He is a gondolier who wants to be a famous artist; she is a famous artist who wants to be (or love) a gondolier. And so we come to the question with which we opened: "Are you faithful, darling?
" Perhaps the answer should be "yes—I am always faithful to our marriage." Then comes the inevitable dilemma of whether one can be faithful to a marriage and bed others.
I have had one such relationship in my life, for nearly two decades.
It has outlasted two of my three marriages and many of my friendship.Bad news if he belongs to the tribe of baggy linen pants and ribbed turtlenecks. You’ll have the pleasure of explaining particularly American concepts such as Snooki, Shamu, Spring Break, Texas and Pizza Bites. He’ll comment on your outfits (positively) and discuss style in general more than an American boy might. He’s probably well-traveled considering that living in France allows you the advantage of hopping over to Italy or Spain for a weekend. Unless he magically learned English from watching episodes of : Angry/hungry, happiness/a penis. He’ll probably do all he can to give you respect and treat you like a princess.I tend to find these confused moments to be hilarious and endearing. It is just assumed that monogamy is rare, if not impossible, among lively people, and the question never comes up." Whether my friend's observation is true or not (for I have many European friends who do seem to care deeply about their mate's fidelity), it certainly does seem that Europeans see marriage differently than Americans do.Marriage is for stability, friendship, children; love is for the adrenaline highs and lows of sexual madness, the romance of being appreciated by anew person, the joys of flirting, pursuing, and clandestine coupling.Romantic love is by its nature delusional, brief, a madness; married love is pragmatic, enduring, sane.