A popular Christian blogger recently announced that she's getting divorced.
But how will you know when you're ready for a new relationship?“This wildly varies from person to person,” says Judith Sills, Ph D, a Philadelphia-based psychologist and author of Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted.For one thing, the concept of “dating” as we know it today is nowhere mentioned in the Bible.Most marriages in Bible times were arranged, and any contact between two prospective spouses was strictly monitored.Tauber, Ph D, a California-based divorce counselor and co-author of Find the Right One After Divorce.
“You wouldn't date somebody who's still tangled up with an ex emotionally. ” If you were in a committed relationship for a long time, the idea of beginning a new romance may seem scary.
“I also saw that my ex wasn't the only guy who would want to be with me.
It bolstered my confidence for dating.” Claudia Barnett needed some alone time to heal before seeking a new relationship.
In addition, no matter what view one takes on the issue of divorce, it is important to remember Malachi : “‘I hate divorce,’ says the LORD, the God of Israel” (NAS).
According to the Bible, marriage is a lifetime commitment. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate” (Matthew 19:6). There are three situations in which dating during the divorce process might occur.
“The advantage is you have a pool of people who are looking, like you are,” Sills says.