Use woman-created media to to remind yourself that the world isn’t only about you men women who have/have not rejected you as a romantic partner. Reason #4: If you ask the women you know for recommendations of books and movies they love, they will flock to this project. Have you looked into clubs, classes, volunteering, Meet Ups?If you meet a woman, and you kind of like her, and you are looking for something to talk about, try asking her “ If you listen to her, and then go and read or watch that thing, she may or may not date you in the end, but you will get infinity coolness points because this behavior by men is sadly all too rare. This is as close as I ever get to the #1 SEEKRIT TRICK TO IMPRESS GIRLS kind of advice-giving. Some cool places to meet lots of nice people are: From how you describe yourself: Intense, intelligent, good at arguing, passionate about certain things that no one else likes, I am going to make an inference that you are very smart, quick-witted, and you like to be good at stuff and impress people.I get really confused and I pick up a lot of body language, but I have no understanding of social cues. Dear Awkward & Lonely: My own time as a Nice Girl(tm) is well-documented on this blog, so, take hope?
A few years ago a I saw a very beautifully made and very personal student film about a lonely and shy young man who has insomnia so he walks around downtown late at night, visiting a diner where he has a crush on the waitress, and otherwise encountering women who all don’t notice him or outright reject him.It was beautifully shot and scored and acted, but I’m not sure that what’s stayed with me is what the filmmaker wanted to stay with me, which is that every single woman that the protagonist ran into in this world was young, pretty, white, able-bodied, straight, and assumed to be potentially dateable.Even though the story took place downtown in a major city, there were no other women in the frame, though the character did frequently interact with men of all ages & walks of life. You say that not many people are interested in your passions.This is true of the Hollywood world, too, where there aren’t even enough women in crowd scenes. You need shy people who are trying to connect with each other and the sexiest/awkwardest dance to The Commodores’ Night Shift in recorded history. Have you looked all around your university community, or your dorm, or your study program?w=300&h=200 300w, https://captainawkwarddotcom.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/jamesbond.jpg? w=600&h=400 600w, https://captainawkwarddotcom.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/jamesbond.jpg? w=150&h=100 150w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" / To elaborate: Step I. Works by men, with male protagonists, dominate popular culture. If you aren’t good at acquiring these objects you are a loser or a failure.
We all grow up on stories and messages where men go out and do great deeds and they rescue and/or win the love of women. These are the messages you are swimming in, and they are affecting your life.We grow up, we figure it out, we stop doing that stuff.It is unlikely, being as self-aware as you are now, that you will repeat those same mistakes.I’m fast becoming isolated, I’ve zero self confidence and my self esteem has taken a nose dive, a combination of truly looking into the mirror for once and a mystery illness.I don’t think I look handsome, but a lot of people have said that I do.2) Seek out new activities and build on the interests and passions that you already have in a way that brings you into contact with more people. Some of those will be in your age group/dating pool or know someone who is.