I didn’t want to repeat some of those negative actions in my new relationship.” —“I got divorced about nine years ago, and I started dating as soon as I got divorced. I think when you’re the one filing and you want to get divorced, it can be an empowering time.
I thought, ‘I’d like to stay here with someone special.’ About a month later, 18 months after my divorce, I signed up for a dating profile.I’ve started to get my feet wet again, and I’m excited. Now I’m dating and am not focused on trying to escape or distract myself.After a romantic relationship ends, sometimes you’re ready to get back on the market ASAP..other times you'd rather gouge your own eyes out than start swiping through Tinder again (too far? The same is true after a divorce—if and when you start dating again is a totally individual choice, and there’s no right way to go about it.To illustrate how much the timeframe can vary, we talked to nine women about how long it took them to take that scary leap of faith.My ex also started dating before me, and that opened the door for me, too.
I think it’s important to honor any feelings you’re having and process those first, so they don’t interfere with your next relationships.
Some people are ready right after a divorce and for others it takes longer, but I think as long as you’re not doing it out of revenge at an ex or because of loneliness, then you’re on the right track.
My test was ‘when am I ready to share myself with someone else?
"I met someone pretty soon after my divorce was final and that turned into a long-term relationship.
I think it’s important to take a step back after a divorce, whether it was your idea or not, to evaluate what happened and take responsibility for your role...
It was also my second divorce and I felt like I needed to regroup emotionally to figure out why I had made some bad or hasty decisions with relationships.