I just urge people to find some healthier perspective on the whole thing.A private client told me just this weekend that she’s quitting online dating after three bad dates in a row.
Has my dad’s attitude changed- of course not- in fact i doubt he even recognises a connection.In order to have a truly fulfilling relationship (or even start a healthy relationship) with a great guy, you need to come from a place of strength, confidence, and fulfillment.These days, people are quick to throw the concept of neediness around without actually looking at what it is.I’ve had some of my female readers complain that the term neediness makes it sound like I’m framing women as weak, fragile, insecure creatures that just cling to men (and stress them out). I think women bring a tremendous strength and power to the table in relationships…If you choose to wait for lightning to strike until you go on another date with the “right” guy, you might be waiting a long, long time. Listen, you might think I’m nuts to keep on preaching positivity. All I know is that it’s freakin’ HARD to meet someone.
We have our small lives: our circle of married friends, our work buddies, a few single people, and that’s it.
Here is what I wrote back to her: First of all, I’ve had EVERY bad dating experience you can possibly imagine.
I’ve had women write me nasty emails, insult me over the phone, ignore my phone calls, stand me up, refuse to thank me for dinner, refuse to reciprocate in bed… And yet I still run around as this super dating advocate, because I believe it is the best prospect to find someone special.
And if it hasn’t happened to you yet, you can say “What’s wrong with these terrible people on these awful sites?
” Or you can ask, “How can I make this work for me, despite the obvious flaws? But I’ll tell you, all it takes is one person – and you’ll be standing right with me.
I was curious as to what your real opinion is of online dating.