What he responds to best is a woman with a light, feminine touch; like a beautiful butterfly, she shimmers just out of reach.By not “helping” him date you, you are letting him know that you see him as the competent adult man that he is. If he approaches you and you start dating, trust that he can figure out what to do.
Sure, he’d be okay with having casual sex with her and hanging out until something better comes along.
But I don’t know many women who enjoy being the good-enough-for-now option.
Remember: If a bachelor has a steady job and is reasonably well-groomed and moderately attractive, then he has women approaching him at the gym, at work, contacting him first on POF and e Harmony, and generally showing him attention.
He may be surrounded by a near-harem of female "helpers."FROM BCBGWhen a man is used to being guided and micromanaged by women, it can become a behavioral pattern that is both comfortable for him and hard to break.
Once you've broken the ice, work your magic to get closer to a shy guy.
No matter what happens, you'll need to reel in your expectations--a shy guy may be a little different from other guys you've dated.If you are crushing on a shy guy, I definitely recommend that you read The Rules, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.The Rules are a great, step-by-step introduction toward letting a man lead and set the pace of the relationship.The Rules definitely do work within any relationship, with any man.If a man isn’t a good fit for you, The Rules will “work” by revealing early on that you are incompatible.Taking the Initiative Building a Connection Advancing the Relationship Community Q&A Are you wondering how to take things to the next level with that shy cutie?