From the inauguration of a president who has confessed on tape to sexual predation, to the explosion of harassment and assault allegations that began this fall, women’s confidence in men has reached unprecedented lows—which poses a not-insignificant issue among those who date them.Not that things were all that much better in 2016, or the year before that; Gamergate and the wave of campus assault reporting in recent years certainly didn’t get many women in the mood, either.
Life is nice and easy when you don’t push yourself but it doesn’t give you that incredible buzz that you get when you do. Pushing out your comfort zone will probably scare the heck out of you…but then the feeling when you succeed is fantastic. Try and commit to doing something once a day, week or month that pushes you and you’ll find it boosts your confidence to whole, new levels of brilliance.The only way to get better and more confident on dates is to just go out on dates. As you go on more dates, you’ll find you start to take it in your stride, you’ll become an old-hand at it. Saskia Nelson is the talent behind the award-winning dating photography business Saturday Night’s Alright.You can find more of her dating advice on her blog or by visiting one of her dating workshops that focus on helping people improve their dating profiles.Kappa Delta created the Confidence Coalition to address the many issues that diminish confidence in women and girls.
This international movement enables women and girls to embrace their uniqueness, stand up to peer pressure and media stereotypes, say no to risky behavior and abusive relationships, and put an end to relational aggression, such as bullying – on the playground and in the office.Take note of any areas in your life where you’re really struggling to feel like this.If you feel over weight and out of sorts, then take the decision that you want to improve this. Sign up for a class or gym, buy a work-out DVD, hire a personal trainer, whatever works for you, but take action right now.You know you’re brilliant and lovely and that’s what counts. Any article focusing on boosting confidence, should most definitely include this little gem – fake it til you make it.When you next get rejected, you won’t even entertain the thought that it’s your fault – you’ll just know that you weren’t right for them but that’s OK. You don’t need to be at the top of your game before you go on a date, you can just give the illusion that you are.The secret is, if you do it enough times, it becomes real.