On Minder, he wrote he enjoys hiking, going on long drives and spending time with his family.On Muzmatch, another option for Muslim singles, he described his ideal partner as well-educated, ambitious and funny.
Practically speaking, how to find her while living in a midsize California city, working long hours that leave little opportunity to meet potential matches. “I’m going to meet a lot of people.” [In Mississippi, aging Muslim community worries about its future] The other singles had come from all over: California, Maryland, Texas and Canada.Osman’s parents think he is too picky, and they have been laying on the pressure since his older brothers got married. Each pairing had three minutes to talk — barely enough time to accomplish anything, Osman soon realized — but many had come carrying the same frustrations about the search.Arham, a 26-year-old electrical engineer, had found similarly bad luck on the dating apps.Aisha, a 35-year-old interior designer, had attended two previous matrimonial banquets, but never really “clicked” with anyone.First of all, until recently there are very few online website options for the girls to present themselves in front of the western men.
There are also issues with the internet in many places of this continent.
But Osman, a 29-year-old insurance broker, has had little luck.
For one, he has never actually met anyone from these apps in person.
“And I keep telling her to get married because we want her to have someone when we’re gone,” said her mother, Shahida Alikhan.
ISNA generally bans parents from being in the room at matrimonial banquets precisely because of this tension.
Because practicing Muslims typically shun dating or sex before marriage, the banquets offer a possible, if imperfect, solution to what young Muslims in America say is an irksome problem: “It’s really hard to meet someone in this culture,” Osman said. Among immigrants and their children, there are also varying degrees of desire — and parental pressure — to stay true to some form of cultural heritage. In Osman’s view, his parents are an example of the kind of couple that “just grew to love each other.” They were married more than 30 years ago in Pakistan, in an arrangement orchestrated by relatives to serve practical needs more than romantic ideals. He wants that person to be a Muslim and a Pakistani American — but not a Pakistani.