This means you’re going to maintain great fitness habits and great grooming habits.
Also, because the expectation is that he will probably be seeing other people, you need to be able to be 100% OK with this or don’t attempt to have a FWB arrangement in the first place. Being that you can expect he’ll be seeing other people (or at least, that he’s open to it at any given point), it’s important that you keep your options wide open too.
I’m not saying that you’re sleeping with multiple people, but it’s important that you keep your options open and keep yourself in the dating market.
I’d like to know your rules for having a friends with benefits arrangement.
I’m not looking to be in a relationship right now, but I’m only human and I have needs.
If you feel you need to connect with someone as a friend… If you feel like you want a boyfriend, then start a relationship with a guy from the foundation of creating that kind of relationship.
As a rule, though, never put your FWB into a role that is outside the arrangement (which is pure sexual enjoyment and exploration).
FWB arrangements are super clean and simple: a relationship purely for sexual enjoyment and exploration. FWB arrangements are best thought of as a bonus to be enjoyed in your life, but not something you need to hold on to or possess… but you practice safe sex and educate yourself on what it means to have safe sex.
It is essential that you understand the risks involved with sex and protect yourself accordingly.
I don’t see society as a whole changing anytime soon, so my opinion is that it’s best to keep this sort of arrangement to yourself and not talk to your peer group about it (unless you feel you have someone you feel you can really trust, who won’t judge you, shame you, moralize you or gossip about you after you share the details… This relates back to rule #1 – when it ends, you want things to be clean…
you don’t want to have to explain to other people that it ended or your reasons why.
This protects you from slipping into thinking of the FWB arrangement as something more than it actually is, which is pure, simple, uncomplicated sexual exploration and enjoyment with a guy on an ongoing (but time-limited) basis.