For some divorced people who have barely made it to the side and are clinging to the steps, they do NOT want a new relationship. No way are they ready to leave the safety of the steps in a world of relationships where emotionally you can’t touch bottom and can’t catch your breath.But for others, they can’t wait to get back into the action. We feel unloved, ugly, old, undesirable, and we just want to feel good about ourselves gain.It is far too terrifying to be alone in that water when she does not know how to handle it.
After a few tears she doesn’t want to be left out and wants to go back into the pool—and that’s when you step in.better, you see that it’s probably a good idea that she stay in the shallow end and get rid of the floaties.Everything else should flow from that intimate love so that when we SERVE him it will be by seeing and loving others rightly, not using them.the power that will move us into the deep, out past our little pools and into the endless ocean of God's love.Now you can understand why someone may want to rush back, as it were, into the perceived safety of a new relationship.
They loved being married, being a family, or having sexual intimacy.
Some admit it’s not wise rush into a romance but maybe they can just be “friends”.
Just some casual company of the opposite sex to feel like we are still lovable, right? Here’s when dating after divorce will end up as another disaster: Be truly available first.
Despite the wounds of divorce, we can be like real-life, "Soul Surfer" Bethany Hamilton who lost her arm to a shark, but who spent enough time healing that she could relearn how to "swim".
If we will do the same, the waters of life will be deep blue and cool, where freedom from our fears keeps us afloat.
To get back in the deep and survive, she’ll need to develop some stronger swimming skills.