Guys who read too much pick-up artist stuff tend to believe this fallacy.A high-quality woman, however, will not put up with this trivial behavior.When someone is their best self, they are all they can be and nothing more. Somewhere along the line paying for a woman when a man took her out on a date became shunned upon by the men’s self-help community.
” It irks me in ways that can only be compared to fingernails scraping against grade-school chalkboards. Let’s think about this concept for a moment so I can emphasize the utter folly of this idea. When you go to the movies you literally have nothing to do but sit quietly and watch the movie. You have a stupid cup-holding barricade in between you two.
You try desperately and unsuccessfully to come up with funny comments relating to the movie.
I’ve known guys who were adamant about not paying for a drink or a meal or a ticket, and they were looked at by the women they took out as petty.
It’s one thing if a woman is obviously trying to have you buy everything or get her things; it’s another thing entirely to offer to get the first round of drinks on a first date.
The “Just Be Nice and She’ll Like You” crap is one of the worst dating advice for men strategies I can think of! When you try acting a certain way, you act incongruently with your inner emotions and your true self.
It literally drives me up the wall when I hear this because it’s so wrong! Women see right through this façade, and they never see the man favorably.
Maybe it gave men a certain belief and entitlement that they never had before; so for that, I can forgive many guys for believing this. Not paying for a woman want to take out says one thing to a woman, “This guy is cheap!
” I am not saying that you should lead with your money and get flashy or that you should pay for everything; but I am saying women still feel that men should pay (or at least offer to) when he takes her out on a date.
Women hate feeling pressured when on a date with a man. These two feeling kill sexual tension, and kill the special moment.
Rather than waiting until the very end to give her that proverbial end-of-the-night kiss, kiss her much earlier on, and take the pressure off the both of you. This way you get it out of the way and you don’t build up weird, awkward feelings between you and her.
Now, don’t get me wrong, nice guys can often finish first with women (as my friend Kevin Alexander will tell you) but trying to be too nice, or trying to be someone you’re not, never works!