"The world teaches us that our sexual nature is the most powerful piece of us.
Viticus Thomas, one half of the married couple behind Dating and Waiting, a ministry that promotes abstinence, advises young men to not make sex a focal point, but to instead point the relationship in a better direction.
One way a man can do this is by paying attention to the kinds of dates he plans.
"All temptation finds its power when hidden from others. So he knew eyes were on him, which he believes helped him stay accountable.
Accountability partners can rob temptation of its power." When I asked my friends about their relationships, it quickly became clear that the couples I knew who saved sex for marriage had one thing in common: They had accountability partners or mentors. Both in their 20s, they dated for a year before getting married, and they found that talking about their relationship with people they trusted made all the difference. "It was good to have people on an individual level and on a more public level to engage with about our relationship," he says.
When our sexual selves are the focus, we lose who we are as whole people.
If we can learn to see ourselves body, soul and spirit, it becomes easier to save your whole self for marriage," she says.Truth is, even in marriage, you have to rein in your sexual desire and allow it to be fulfilled with your spouse in a loving consensual encounter.Part of dating and learning to bring your sexual desire under submission is simply training ground for marriage." Managing sexual desires begins with realizing that we can't do it on our own.Every couple needs someone who will speak into their relationship."A mature couple can serve both the role of accountability partners and mentors who help the couple develop the skills necessary for building a great marriage," says Jeffrey Murphy, marriage mentor and co-author of . We also had a few couples that we spent time with who would prod into our situation." Jason is a worship leader and minister at Regent University in Virginia Beach, Va.Passion can build inside of you much like stress or tension can, and it's important to control that passion before it controls you.