The most important reason for dating more than one man until you are exclusive is that it gives YOU the opportunity to find the best partner.
The fact that you will become more attractive to the men you’re dating is a bonus.
I went to bed that night feeling hopeful and happy. Then, out of nowhere, two months later, a text from him: "Been thinking about when we can get together again." Oooh, I burned with anger. Yet at the same time, my heart pounded with excitement. But, the roller coaster ride continued, as after the second night he retreated back into his coldness. A few days later, I called and confronted him."I'd really like to know what's going on. " "I need another drink for that conversation," he replied jokingly. I lied there thinking, "What can I do to make this man love me? " The thing is, I realize now that I was addicted to the hot in his hot-and-cold treatment of me.
Or, he’ll leave you alone; and you’ll find out he wasn’t worth your time and heart anyway. And since you were keeping your options open, you have a number of other suitors who are happily standing by. It worked so well for me that I decided to create my e Book so I could share what I learned with women like you.Thousands of women have dramatically improved their relationships by using these powerful Tools.I’d monitor his face for any sign that he might be going cold on me, and then I would go into what I call “over functioning.” I’d ask him where he was going, what he was thinking, and ask when we were going to see each other.I made sure I was available all the time and even planned dates for us.I can still remember how I felt several years ago when I was dating a guy who was hot and cold.
On our first date, he took me to a really nice restaurant where the ambience was romantic, the wine was expensive and the sparks were flying between us. It is these kinds of experiences that make women really hate dating.
Note that I said “made myself,” because I know how challenging this is!
But you have to trust me (and yourself) to know that even when it feels scary to step back and take care of yourself, it’s the best – and most attractive thing – you can do.
WHY do we play hot and cold with the person we like?
Girls and guys why do you play hot and cold with a person your attracted to?
In my mind, I was going to save this poor, sweet guy who had been hurt by some mean girl. I pulled him aside after a little while and asked, "What are we? Things went on like this with us for a few more months, a pattern of hot and cold, which resulted in super-high highs mingled with constant disappointment and resentment. I deserve better." I realized I deserved my man to be hot and hot versus hot and cold. Dating someone who is hot and cold just makes you feel bad about yourself. When the person is hot, you are on top of the world, only to be pulled down (with hurricane-force winds) when he or she decides to be cold again.