This is called (Sahih Bukhari) Now it is important to note that Allah never prohibits something unless it is harmful to us. First, most reports of sexual abuse are not committed by strangers. So, overwhelmingly, it is those people who you are out on a ‘date’ with that commit these crimes.
Also, as dating has become more widespread in a society, so has unwanted pregnancy, as well as sexually transmitted diseases.
In the society that the Prophet (sal-Allahu alayhi wa-sallam) lived, burying little girls alive was the norm.
Young people can read one another’s profiles, exchange a few anonymous messages through the matrimonial service’s messaging system, then if they find each other interesting they can take it offline and contact each other’s families. And every major Islamic conference should include such an event. I’ve read about an Imam in New York who does that quite successfully.
We seem to have these two extremes – either an arranged marriage between cousins, which is generally unhealthy and seems to end in misery more often than not, or a free-for-all where young people must fend and seek for themselves, and often fall into sin.
What you are forgetting is that there is a third option: the option taught to us by our beloved Prophet (sws).
Let us examine each of the three options for meeting a marriage partner: One option is dating. First, the Prophet (sws) has taught us that it is haram for a non-mahram (unrelated) man and a woman to be alone together. Department of Justice, 68% of young girls raped knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance, and 60% of rapes of young women occur in their own home or a friend or relative’s home – not in a dark alley.
I have three suggestions that would allow singles to meet in an Islamic manner, to get to know each other for marriage: 1. Of course we have online matrimonial services now – like Zawaj.com!
That’s a good place to start, and does not require breaking any Islamic rules. I’m talking about organized marriage events where men and women can meet in a structured and supervised environment. There are some organizations doing this already, but they tend to be held only occasionally in larger cities. I think local mosques should take the lead in organizing marriage events for the singles in their communities. Maybe the Imam of each community (and his wife) should take it as one of the office’s functions to maintain a database of single brothers and sisters, and make suggestions and introductions.You explain that dating is needed since arranged marriages are not feasible.However, by saying this you imply that these are the only two routes to getting married.As a community we must develop modern alternatives that satisfy Islamic requirements and allow single Muslim men and women to meet.Family and Children | Hadith | Health | Hijab | Islam and Christianity | Islam and Medicine | Islamic Personalities | Other | Personal Growth | Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) | Qur'an | Ramadan | Science | Social Issues | Women in Islam |Dating is getting to know each other.However the dating that is vogue in North America involves intimate relationship such as touching, kissing, petting, necking that ultimately results in pre-marital sex.