People regard the infidelity as far more damaging to the relationship if they were, shall we say, the last to know.
Nearly 60 percent of female cheaters say their stepping out had "no effect" on their relationship, and just 9 percent think made their sex lives worse.
Among people in their 50s, about 42 percent of men and 15 percent of women say they indulge in self-stimulation "about once a week" or "more than once a week." The chips may be low, but as Sinatra sang, "they can't take that away from me." (Don't) Put a Ring on It It may be a cliche, but the survey did indeed find that single 45 Americans who are dating have more sex (and better love lives all-round) than their married counterparts.
What's more, some report that infidelity made their relationship better.About 25 percent of cheaters say that it gave their relationship a boost in the sex department, and 11 percent of cheatees agree.Among women with cheating partners, however, only 24 percent say it had no effect on the relationship-and almost 40 percent say it made their sex lives worse.(Perhaps some of these lucky "no effect" folks had struck a pragmatic arrangement; one survey respondent added, "We lived 300 miles apart at the time and agreed to a 'don't ask don't tell' policy." Gender matters, too. These probably aren't questions you'd relish answering, at least not in front of the kids.
Between 20, the percentage of people in their 50s who say they have sex at least once a week took about a 10-point plunge for both sexes (women dropped from 43 to 32 percent, and men from 49 to 41 percent). The survey found that only 43 percent of older Americans say they're satisfied with their sex lives (down from 51 percent in 2004), while the percentage who are dissatisfied with their sex lives increased.
About half enjoy such simple nurturing activities at least weekly, although those with a regular partner are much more likely to report such frequency. To put it mildly, financial stress is probably hitting midlifers below the belt.
"Financial worries tend to seep into all parts of a couple's life together," says Dr.
The 50-somethings aren't special; most other age groups saw a drop in their frequency of sex, too. Save Money: Get AARP member discounts on travel, shopping and more The chill isn't confined to the bedroom, sadly. Consider that the number of 45 Americans who believe that only married people should have sex has dropped by nearly half in five years-from 41 percent in 1999 to 22 percent in 2009.
The percentage of people who say they engage in affectionate acts like hugging, kissing, and caressing at least once a week also fell between 20. What's more, fewer survey respondents agree that "there's too much emphasis on sex today" than they did in 2004 (though maybe Janet Jackson's wardrobe malfunction at the 2004 Super Bowl had us fed up back then). Research has long shown that money worries sap sex, and with the recent unemployment scourge, yo-yoing 401(k)s and rampaging foreclosures, there's been no shortage in worries.
More likely, it trumps living with someone who has stopped trying.