But my research shows that young men don’t cheat because they have fallen out of love with their partners.Rather, they cheat simply because they desire sex with someone else, even if they want to preserve their relationship.
“At the start I wasn’t cheating on her,” one explained.“But it felt like I was getting the same old thing.I just needed some other sex.” 5Most married people don’t cheat.In a 1991 study, sex researcher Shere Hite found that 70 percent of married women have cheated on their partners; a 1993 follow-up study found that 72 percent of married men have as [email protected] Anderson, a sociologist at the University of Winchester, is the author of “The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating.” His Web site is Valentine’s Day excitement is upon us, a time when people’s thoughts turn to romance, flowers, candle-lit dinners — and cheating?
Though this may risk spoiling the holiday, I’ve got to say it: A lot of people in relationships cheat.
Nor do more socially conservative times erase infidelity.
America today may seem more sexually relaxed than in the buttoned-down years immediately following World War II, yet pioneering research by Alfred Kinsey found that married men cheated at rates of around 50 percent.
Worse, buying into this myth makes the wronged individuals blame themselves for their partner’s infidelity.
For most people, monogamy does not necessarily provide a lifetime of sexual contentment.
I found that, though 78 percent of the men I interviewed had cheated on their current partner, only a handful said they cheated because they were near the end of their emotional relationships.