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But, will you see the same kind of supportive person who is a male and wants to support a female partner as she rises in her chosen profession?
Perhaps, but it sounds like such a person is a lot harder to find.
It is to talk to female professionals who are civilians and see what they have chosen to do.
I know my doctor who is female has a "House husband" who works hard raising their two children and I presume also maintains the house and home in much the same way as a housewife would do.
It is against the law for you to have a relationship with an enlisted man, so that is out of the question.
You could have a relationship with another officer, but that offers its own problems.
I've never discussed the details of this relationship with her, but I would bet she would be happy to discuss it with you if you met her under the right circumstances.