Ideally, you should desire to marry not just another Christian, but a vital Christian who will challenge you and help you grow in your faith.
It is important to explore your positions on faith, theology, gender roles and doctrine, and then marry someone who is at a similar position in their faith and passions. The Word-of-God Question: Is the other’s life truly governed by God’s Word?
For most people, the pressure of trying to be someone they’re not eventually takes it toll and they revert back to their previous behavior. The Faith Question: Are you at a compatible level of faith?
In other words, look at his/her historical pattern of behavior before you met.
Their love for you can drive them to “appear” to be more compatible than they really are.
Whether you are engaged, pre-engaged or just dating, you can use these questions to help you grow closer together and to clarify your relationship.
After all, this is the most important decision you’ll make in life after your decision to follow Jesus. The Authenticity Question: Who was this person before you met one another?
What on earth has gone wrong with Christian dating?
Why does it seem so much more difficult today than it was just a generation ago?
Then you started hearing people talk about dortship, which was some weird dating, courting hybrid and it just became really, really difficult. Allow people the freedom to get to know one another in casual settings, and then progress from there into a dating relationship and from there to marriage.
Honestly, I don’t think it needs to be that difficult. How can a Christian couple keep themselves pure while dating?
It’s God’s good desire that that sexual desire grows throughout your relationship leading to marriage.
In fact, it’s more concerning if there is no sexual desire than if there is.
So, how do you avoid committing sexual sin, how do you remain pure? So, until you’re actually married, then she becomes your wife and then you can relate to her as a wife, which includes, of course, a sexual relationship.