“Many young ones who date break up with each other a week or two later,” says a youth named Heather.
“They come to view relationships as transitory—which in a sense prepares them for divorce rather than for marriage.” Recreational or casual dating—pairing off merely for fun or for the sake of having a boyfriend or a girlfriend—can easily lead to hurt feelings.
Consider Eric, who at age 18 was innocently enjoying what he thought was just a close friendship with a girl.Then he became aware that for her the friendship meant something more. Was I surprised at how fast she got serious,” Eric says. ” Of course, it’s not wrong to mix with members of the opposite sex in properly supervised group settings.But if you don’t know yourself, how can you expect someone else to figure you out? She says: “Thinking back to two years ago, what I would have looked for in a potential mate was so different from what I would look for now. Do you take the initiative to read God’s Word, to engage in the ministry, and to participate at Christian meetings?Basically, even at this point I don’t trust myself to make such a decision. If you are not maintaining your own spirituality, how will you encourage a mate to do so? These are just a few things you need to consider if you are thinking about dating and marriage.[Box on page 30] A NOTE TO PARENTS The dating issue is certain to be thrust upon your children sooner or later. ’ It’s hard to say no because some of them are very beautiful!
” The best thing that you can do as parents is talk to your teen about dating.
That is what a young Christian named Sondra has decided to do, even though she is already of legal age to marry. Or is it because of some undesirable trait on your part?
Sondra reasons: “In the dating process you want someone else to get to know you. If you cannot responsibly handle your own finances, how will you do so for a family? ▪ Spirituality If you are one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, what are your spiritual attributes?
“Part of me wants to say that dating should be just for fun,” she admits, “but it’s no fun when one person is taking it seriously and the other isn’t.” You’re How Old?
▪ At what age do you think it is appropriate for a youth to start dating?
They may view their opposite-sex friend as nothing more than a trophy or an accessory to be seen with in public to boost their own self-esteem.