One commenter who went by Sailorman over at Alas said, on the third post: I read this thread with interest, but it is of course basically a very extended and well written TPHMT argument?
I don’t know what the acronym means, but I’m honestly sort of annoyed by any attempt to boil those three posts down to a single argument, because I tried so hard to make it clear that a single argument was not my intent, with that series. There’s just one correction I want to make to my own posts before I continue.
Sociopathy is not the new cool, and sociopaths are very destructive, whatever level they function on.
I would irritably characterize them as “conspiracy theories”: these people seemed to think there was some secret society of evil men sitting around and plotting to ruin their lives, which clearly was not the case! :grin: The problem is, of course, exacerbated by the fact that definitions of feminism have become so varied and so many different issues have been attached to feminism by different people.*** In other words, almost my entire gender/sex background is idiosyncratic and self-trained.
I certainly can’t hope to match the massive theoretical background that many Internet gender commentators have.
Introducing myself, and One Correction Please allow me to introduce myself.
I think those posts probably make more sense (as will large swaths of this one) if you know who I am, and they got linked around to so many non-regular readers that most of the audience now doesn’t. It is not my real name, because I am a sex-positive and, in particular, pro-BDSM** activist, and being all-the-way-out-of-the-closet about kink can have serious, long-term repercussions for someone’s life (the most pressing for me, right now, being employability: my immediate superiors here in Africa know about my BDSM identity, but the larger rather conservative organization sure as hell doesn’t).
I really am just interested in exploring various and often very discrete masculinity-related questions. In the third one, I failed to make a point that really needed to be made, which is: for women — and for men — any “privileges” they experience are also the flip side of unfortunate stereotypes.
But what’s especially pernicious about male privilege is that every aspect of female privilege can be trumped by male privilege.
In Chicago, I lectured on BDSM and sexual communication, and I created and curated a fabulous sex-positive film series and discussion group that it broke my heart to leave.
(The film series was so successful that a group of loyalists gathered, formed a committee, and have continued it without me! ) My feminist history isn’t very “official”, though I was raised by two very feminist people.
It seems more that, like many feminists, she wants to define the problem, define the terms, define the rules of discussion and define the solution. I mean, I didn’t propose a solution — I did pretty much the opposite of proposing a solution, in fact: I asked a bunch of interrelated but differently-focused questions.
Still, it’s true that I defined some problems, and the terms, in heavily feminist ways.
Equally as entertaining, though, is following the blogosphere's reaction to arguably the biggest sociopathic outting of our time.