The recent drama “Loving” is about an interracial marriage and takes place in midcentury rural Virginia, but there are no burning crosses, white hoods or Woolworth counters.
Richard Loving and Mildred Jeter, a white man and a black Native American woman kiss in public at a drag race, and no one voices disapproval. But the couple embrace and laugh, unsullied.“Segregation wasn’t a clean divide in these communities,” the drama’s writer-director, Jeff Nichols, told me, and for “Loving” it’s true: The film, about the 1967 Supreme Court case striking down laws banning interracial marriage, addresses the long ignored and deliberately suppressed topic of mixed race in America.
It pays to be aware of these clashes of culture, not only to head off any potential problems but to celebrate your differences too.
The census finds record rates of mixed marriages and relationships, but few of these couples or their children make it to the screen.
We may see and know mixed couples and families, but the anecdotal does not translate into collective visibility.
Mixed-race couples existed here long before 1967, but the Lovings (played by Joel Edgerton and Ruth Negga) were among the first to demand official recognition through marriage.
According to the codes of popular culture and the law of domestic relations, families like theirs did not exist.
It confounds our impressions of the past, the legacies of slavery, and the reality of Jim Crow.
Fifty years have passed since “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner,” and this is still an issue.It's perhaps best not to advertize the fact you're looking for a particular race or ethnicity, since this increases your chances of encountering this wrong set of people.Simply make contact with the people you find attractive - if you're a match, and it's meant to be, that's all you'll need to do!When you're still single, and your black & white dating story is still at a speculative stage, you're best served by keeping an open-mind.But be wary of those who only see interracial dating as 'exotic', who fetishize being with someone of a different race, or are merely rebelling against their family - they're clearly in it for the wrong reasons.Family pressure is perhaps the most common type of stigma black & white couples face, followed closely by judgment from their neighbors and religious communities.