It's a bit shameful to admit that I often fantasise about being single, considering I live with my long-term partner. No matter how much guilt I feel for longing for my Tinder days of casual sex and wildly overpriced cocktails, I still imagine what it would be like to be back there, swiping merrily away without a care in the world. "Many people in long term relationships admit that when hanging out with their single friends, they often fantasise about how life used to be when they were single," she tells me.Yes, you could be forgiven for thinking I'm unhappy and my relationship is doomed. Am I going to marry him, or freak out in 10 years time that I don't know WTF I've been doing with him all along? "This doesn’t mean that they are not happy in their relationships, and it doesn’t mean they necessarily want to replace their partner."Dr Becky Spelman, We-Vibe's psychologist, agrees there's nothing wrong with fantasy and imagining yourself in different scenarios.
It can be fun to reminisce about the feeling of 'freedom' we have when we are not in a romantic couple." Dr Pennington defines freedom in this situation as the being able to "look at or flirt with others", and to "come and go as we please."And, she says that's fine."Unless there is significant turmoil in your relationship, chances are it’s harmless fantasy.""Alarm bells should ring, however, if you find that you are no longer treating your significant other with respect and care," Dr Spelman says."Could you style yourself very differently for a date?Could you use pseudonyms, while your partner attempts to pick you up in a bar you've never been to?"If that’s the case, Olga says you can fulfil this desire by "visiting new places, taking up a new activity or joining a social group. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you don’t deserve time alone.
You and your partner don’t have to be tied at the hip.more As much as we love online dating, sometimes it’s good to get out and about and meet people in the real world.Parties are a great opportunity to meet new people, especially house parties, but they do have their drawbacks.There are some 15 million single people in the UK, and about 50% of them are looking for a serious relationship.A similar proportion are ready to go online dating, some in search of fun and flirtation, others -members of Parship, for instance - looking for something deeper and more lasting. She says, "The inclination to be single fades and fizzes depending on my mood, but if anyone finds the answer, I'll be listening.", whether this kind of thinking is 'normal'?