"Shut down whatever else you're doing—that includes electronic devices, but also just the noise in your head—and show up," says Thomas.
If you've just started dating a girl, you probably don't know which category she's in.So hold off on those epic sweep-her-off-her-feet moves, Tran says.Overanalyzing "Women get a bad rap for overanalyzing, but men do it too," says Chlipala."Reading too much into her words and actions can do a lot of harm." You'll end up assigning negative meanings to the things she says or does."But she wants to date you, not employ you." Women find it difficult to connect with men who are constantly selling themselves, Thomas says.
Instead of talking about what you do, tell her how you feel about things, how you experience life, what makes you tick, and what inspires you. Not having a plan Women like decisive men, and the best way to show her you're capable of stepping up to the plate is by planning good dates.The key word being 'planning,' not just 'winging it.' "Good dates are planned, and all situations are thought of—nothing is left to chance," says Tran. This allows you to see her in multiple situations and both feed and entertain her, instead of just one." That said, it's better to think of your 'date day' as being on an Italian timetable: Flexibly romantic and never on time.6.Having too many plans Wait until you're exclusive to start hitting her up as your go-to plus-one, says relationship expert Anita Chlipala.Putting on an act Think you can sweep a girl off her feet with well-executed lines and a fedora? Even if you manage to pick her up initially, she won't stick around for long if you're putting on an act."Pretending to be something you're not is fear operating," Thomas says."If you invite her out on a fancy dinner date and show up with arms full of roses, chocolates, and teddy bears like you're celebrating the biggest Valentine's Day ever, you're putting a lot of pressure on her if you two aren't already an item," Tran explains. "Women in my office complain all the time that the men in their lives don't ask any questions, and aren't actually interested in the answers when they do," says Thomas.