We’ve all gotten advice at some point or another in our lives. “Just be yourself” takes the cake as being the worst piece of advice you can possibly get. By being yourself, and being the same person who has an ineffective dating life, you will not succeed!People love giving their two cents to others when it concerns something they presume themselves to be an expert in. People who say, “Just be yourself,” really mean “Just be your part.When someone is their best self, they are all they can be and nothing more. Somewhere along the line paying for a woman when a man took her out on a date became shunned upon by the men’s self-help community.
A lot of people think you have to wait a certain amount of dates to have sex with someone.
Typically I hear things like “Wait 3 dates before getting sexual.” Or sometimes I hear 5 dates, or 1 month, or even a few months, or yes, even marriage!
The “Just Be Nice and She’ll Like You” crap is one of the worst dating advice for men strategies I can think of! When you try acting a certain way, you act incongruently with your inner emotions and your true self.
It literally drives me up the wall when I hear this because it’s so wrong! Women see right through this façade, and they never see the man favorably.
” It irks me in ways that can only be compared to fingernails scraping against grade-school chalkboards. Let’s think about this concept for a moment so I can emphasize the utter folly of this idea. When you go to the movies you literally have nothing to do but sit quietly and watch the movie. You have a stupid cup-holding barricade in between you two.
You try desperately and unsuccessfully to come up with funny comments relating to the movie.Kissing her at the end of the date is okay, but waiting until the end of the date to kiss her for the first time is not.If you have to wait until the very end of the date to lock lips with your woman, you’ve done something wrong.You basically sit through two hours of torture watching some crappy movie about god-knows-what, and when it finally ends and the lights turn on, you’ve virtually spent two boring and awkward-filled hours with a complete stranger! And oh yeah, take all of this advice about not going to the movies, and times it by 10 when it comes to dinner dates! Unless you are older than 50, take her someplace fun like Dave and Buster’s, karaoking, mini-golfing, a fair, a park, dancing, an event, even go kart racing.All of these ideas beat the hell out of doing nothing but watching a movie or watching each other eat!On a side note, a good woman is always going to offer to pitch in, get the next tab, pay for something else during the date, or offer to buy the subsequent round of whatever pops up.