We use relative pronouns to introduce relative clauses, which tell us more about people and things.
We use relative clauses to postmodify a noun - to make clear which person or thing we are talking about.
We do not repeat the object: We saw the latest Harry Potter film, which we really enjoyed as the object.
That is the nature of language - its rules are determined by its users and anyone trying to ignore this fact rapidly comes to resemble Cnut trying to order back the tide.Question: "Is it wrong to have a relationship with a close relative?Then he (I strongly suspect, directed by the answer you gave to the above “It was him that took my car" vs "It was he that took my car" dispute), told me that both were correct, but it was a matter of register, and “Choose she who loves you best” was more formal while “Choose her who loves you best” was informal.I pointed out that “Choose she who loves you best” was just plain wrong because “Choose she” was wrong.The food was definitely the thing which I enjoyed most about our holiday.
- Sometimes we use when the relative pronoun is the object: Have you seen those people whom we met on holiday?WARNING: The relative pronoun is the object of the clause. Do you remember the place where we caught the train? I have just read Orwell’s 1984, which is one of the most frightening books ever written.We do not repeat the object: Have you seen those people who we met I haven’t read the book which you were talking about. Stratford-upon-Avon is the town where Shakespeare was born. but we can leave out the word when: England won the world cup in 1996. WARNING: The relative pronoun is the subject of the clause.You shouldn’t believe everything that you read in the newspaper.The house that we rented in London was fully furnished.The contested usage (contested by those two) is attested in Jane Eyre, chapter 37; “Choose then, sir—her who loves you best.” The native English speaker, who was a power in advertising felt that this usage was wrong, that you can’t say “Choose her who loves you best”, that it should be “Choose she who loves you best”.